My Ausome Girl: The Phoenix Effect. 

This wonderful Mummy of two, shares her experiences of life as a mother to two children with additional needs – a much needed perspective on Autism in girls. Well done on putting yourself out there and sharing your experiences 😊

My Ausome Girl

“Different not less”.

Being a mum of an autistic girl is challenging, rewarding, devastating and an emotional rollercoaster. Their ability to mask, mimic and cope, holding it all in until they feel safe. It’s well documented but little understood. Unless you have experienced it , you can symphasise but not emphasise.

Continually self-defeated, trying, wanting, needing to get the right support yet constantly hitting a brick wall.This is the PhoenixEffect: the ability to rise again, stronger ready to battle, “I willbe heard”.

As a parent of two children with additional and opposing needs, days are never the same. Getting the balance between the sensory seeker and the sensory avoider, finding my calm in the storm. Balancing the brook with the whirlwind swirling through, completely indifferent to the screams of “Be Quiet!, I’ve had enough!”. One of the hardest challenges is knowing how sensitive her hearing is…

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Autism Awareness

Those of you that read my blogs know that I haven’t written in a while. Life is hectic, it always is, but I have found a few moments to write this short piece:Son No. one has Autism. Autism brings great joy – he is different and that’s a good thing.

He sees things in a different way, he plays in his own unique way, he thinks about things on a different level. We truly need these special unique people in our world.

Life is often challenging, forming friendships and maintaining them is very difficult. You see he doesn’t understand the social intricacies of being a friend and he certainly isn’t able to understand when a friend says no, needs space, a break or time with others.

It’s hard for his friends too, some get it, some are trying and some have probably given up long ago.  I understand, they are young children, all under the age of nine. In a world where adults often don’t understand, how can we expect our children to.

Indeed I was a Mummy with two children, I admit that I found it difficult to understand, until I had to. And I’m still learning.

This is Autism awareness week. Please do what you can to learn about additional needs and Autism. And pass your knowledge on.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. I’d rather you ask, than avoid a parent or child with Autism.

I am grateful, for being surrounded by a good community, great friends and an amazing family.  But in life there are times of painful loneliness, when you just don’t know what to do, or where to turn.

Be that person that reaches out, you never know the difference or impact you can make to an Autism Parent.

Autism is scary for me  and our family.  I try not to think too far into the future. Just focus on the here and now – fix each day as it comes – learn something new each day, to prepare you for the next.

It’s Ok to be afraid of what you don’t know or understand, but is not OK to be ignorant.

The Autism Mummy